Good gawd. Did I even look at these questions? Sigh.....
What anyone else chooses to do or not to do - well, that's up to them. I am only responsible for my own actions. Trust me ridin herd on those bad boys is a full time job. This is one of the tenets at the very heart of who I am - that of free will. If you don't get that, move along. I try not to judge people around me for their actions (unless they are Micheal Vick or a baby fucker - I can't cotton either of those even a tiny bit). I continue to love friends who have been/are sometimes complete fucktards. I may hang around them less during their episodic fucktardiness, but I won't stop loving them.
For instance, four years ago I had a close friend who was heroin addicted, constantly borrowed money from me, and used me as a free baby sitter. I continued to be his friend and help him out when I could even when he lost his mind and told me I was to blame for everything wrong in his life, that I was secretly in love with him, that I knew the answer to things that he needed to know. I tried to explain that he held the answers to his own demons, that if his life was in the shitter that was his doing and that while I cared about him a lot, I had at no point been 'in love' with him. In fact, after getting to know him I felt our becoming friends instead of dating was like dodging a bullet....or a bullet train more aptly. I gently disengaged myself and walked away. I still care about him and hold a vision of him becoming well. That said, I don't really ever want to see him again. It was hard to walk away, but self-preservation prevailed.
Would I ever cheat? Probably not is my best guess. But who really knows what they will do in a situation they have never been presented with before. If I were to get all logical about it, I would use past behavior as a predictor of future behavior - and the answer would be no. I don't have the bandwidth to be able to deal with more than one dude at a time and I am incapable of lying with any more flair than your average four year old. If I meet someone I want to explore a relationship with while I am in a relationship, I always end the latter before continuing. It's the clean edge of the knife for me. And I definitely prefer it in return. Hurts like an m-fer, but heals with less scarring.
So what about someone who cheated on me.....hmmmmmmm. That is a tougher question. It isn't the cheating ultimately that would take them down, but the lying around the subject. And isn't there ALWAYS lying when there's cheating? I can forgive the sex - we are after all physical beings, but the lying is a major big UNH-UH! I wonder how I would react if a lover approached me and said something like "I would really like to explore a physical relationship with XYZ, and I would like to continue my relationship with you as well." I think it might work if it were approached with love and honesty. But that's all conjecture until someone does. Given the current emotional maturity of most men, I don't think I have anything to worry about for a loooooong time.
So hopefully somewhere in there I answered the question.....wha??? Whaddaya mean they were talkin about the TV show?
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